Dating Older Men

I've stuck a fancy for a man twice my age for the past year now. Whom until recently we ended up making-out in his car and what not (Reminding you that he's older than my mother and he has a 21yr old daughter that has a child, making him one of the most adorably-cute Grandfather's ever). We had never even made a real pass at one another before and I had always thought he was attractive although unsure if he had felt the same for myself.

Until two weeks ago when he announced outside around my moms friends and my mother that he wanted to give me a huge hug goodbye and gave me a nice kiss on my cheek goodbye. Sure their was no perversion or anything of that nature, just a kind hearted kiss goodnight as my friends and mother walked out of a bar we frequent. My mother saying out loud "Ohhh, he likes younger women!" (ha-ha).

I was totally thinking about that kiss he had added into the hug he so badly wanted to give me that night. My mind began to wonder of the possibilities of being with him and if their was more meaning to that kiss than just a kiss goodnight...also thinking that since this man works at this bar as a DJ, he has seen me with several other men closer to my age and what could be going on in his mind about me...if anything at all.

My mom has yet to discover is age and she claims that lately he has been showing interest in me, although we both noticed before he can be a little flirt although neither one of us could confess to having ever saw him kiss another woman on the cheek at that bar.

So the next week I decided to head back out to the bar and do things solo to see if perhaps...their was more than meets the eye. It wasn't too crowded that night and as he was DJ-ing, I stood 10ft from him near the dance floor as he looked over and smiled at me and I gave a smile and friendly wave to him. He approached me and making small talk about asking who I came with or something of that nature and I told him that "I came to see you, you don't see me with anyone else now do you?", he smiled and laughed a little as if to believe I was joking but replied "really?? No you didn't...?". I confirmed that I did and he hugged me yet again although he was a bit bashful about it but he also seemed happy...perhaps that a much younger woman he had seen for a year now had made a pass at him. He then urged me to kiss him if I really meant to come out to see him and him-alone tonight...I was a bit shy about it because he was still working and all...so I giggled and didn't kiss him but I told him I would later on. He was just like "see, I knew you didn't just come here to see me" with a smile on his face as he walked back up to the DJ booth looking over at me with a bashful smile in slight disbelief of what I had told him.

Sure my mom will totally disapprove if she finds out his real age but....I'm really starting to like him and I know he must fancy me too. So on that note...

-Is age really just a number?

-Will our age difference cause too much conflict between the two of us and eventually end abruptly?

-Should I follow my heart or my Family?

These are questions and topics that arise for many other woman out their and the best advice I believe a person can say is....to follow your heart. If you believe your family is going to disapprove just keep the new relationship on the "down-low". It's better to discover your relationship/s out for yourself and learn from experience than having to break-off something that could be a beautiful one. If things positively progress in the relationship, than deal with it than instead of stressing a lot over it now.